Why I care about Tom Hardy’s Bisexuality

15067102739_64bac8af56_mI shouldn’t. It’s rude of me. It’s none of my business. It doesn’t matter what he does or who he does in his private life. The rampant speculation over Tom Hardy’s sexuality is a byproduct of our paparazzi culture, where people have no respect for any celebrity privacy.


I care. I can’t help it. I’m sorry, Tom.

You see, Tom Hardy gave frank, refreshing answers in a 2008 interview, regarding his sexuality. He suggested that he had fooled around with guys when he was younger, but it wasn’t his thing, and now he’s married to a woman. That response was brilliant and progressive, and I hate that it’s being treated like a piece of salacious gossip and a gotcha journalism crutch.

I doubt Tom Hardy is gay. He’s bi. And barely bi. More like bi-curious. Right now, we have openly gay celebrities and proudly trans celebrities, but we don’t have any open and proud male bisexual celebrities.

Guess what? Tom isn’t alone. There are plenty of guys who’ve been with guys and girls. They experimented. Their sexualities are more fluid than other guys. It sounds like such a radical concept because the mainstream likes to see sexuality as gay or straight with no in-between. People forget that you could exist somewhere in the middle of the Kinsey scale, not just as either end. We’re okay when it’s women, but freak out if we find out a guy fooled around with another guy once.

We need more male bi-sexual and bi-curious representation. How awesome would it be if Tom Hardy — major franchise movie star —  was like “Yeah, I fooled around guys when I was younger. It wasn’t my thing. Next question.” It’d be a breath of fresh air. And maybe there’d be a young guy out there battling with his sexuality who after hearing that, would feel a little more secure in his confusion.

But of course, once Tom Hardy started getting famous, he backtracked on his past comments. While it isn’t any of my business, by denying any of his past bisexual activity, then the status quo wins. And that’s why I care when I probably shouldn’t.

I think we’re at a point where people want so badly for there to be a gay male movie star. We’re so close. We don’t want another Travolta. So we’re clinging to anything that could give us hope, and that includes the thought of MySpace-era Tom Hardy getting down with another guy.

What do you think? Should people stop asking Tom Hardy to “clarify” his sexuality, or should he be upfront and honest about his erstwhile bi-curiosity?


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5 thoughts on “Why I care about Tom Hardy’s Bisexuality”

  1. I’m so tired of the “Is he/she gay?” speculation. I don’t really care with whom an actor sleeps as long as they do a good, solid, respectable job. Now–personally–I’m not a big “believer” in bi-sexuals–for me, it’s “I’m fluid but I’m going to marry a. . .”. To me, the true mark is the person with whom you make a life.

    But that’s just me.

    1. Hi Steven,

      Thanks for stopping by! I get frustrated by speculation, too. That’s why I’m kind of mad at myself for caring about his past sexual life. The covering up just gets to me, ya know? I also believe in fluidity/experimentation more than fixed bisexuality. Bottom line: Who wouldn’t want to experiment with Tom Hardy? I would gladly read all about it.

  2. It’s very interesting to say the least, especially since I’ve found myself in the last 5-6 yrs following his movies. I myself am in fact, bisexual. I have 2 children and I have been openly bisexual since I was a teen. I do believe if we did have more open bisexual male high profile celebrities it would begin to flourish and ease the cost of such confusion as I have many people in my life that see me as me and not just a bisexual man. It’s ironic how my small surrounding has no judgement in that department as to who I am with. I mean it is always a deep interest still to this day but I definitely have respect from my loved ones, coworkers, friends, family etc. just makes you wonder how the world would take it. Either way there will always be judgement regardless, but to finally pave and open it all up as it should and as it has always been around for many many centuries. Goes to show you how the human race perceives something that they would rather keep human experiences hidden especially when it comes to bisexuality but for some reason it’s still frowned upon, for men indefinitely!

    1. HI Korban,

      That’s awesome that you are able to live your life openly as a bisexual man. I wish more places were as progressive. It’s so true that it’s been around for centuries. I had a character in my latest book say that if ancient Rome had kept on conquering the world, we’d all be bisexual and having orgies willy-nilly. Thanks for stopping by!

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